Finding Love After 50: Where to meet men

Finding Love After 50:  Where to meet quality singleoff the couch, away from the computer screen, out
menof the house, and pursue activities and hobbies that
©2009 Tom Blake – The expert on dating andinterest them. Meeting new people is vital.
finding love after 50“Singles should go out to spice up and revitalize
“Where should I go to meet quality men mytheir lives, grow, have fun and experience new things.
age?” is the most frequently asked question IWhile doing that, they might meet a mate, they
receive from women age 50+. I’ve been writingmight not, but in doing so, they’ve improved
newspaper columns on finding love after 50 evertheir chances greatly.”
since my wife of six years cleaned out the house onI also tell singles that it’s important, however,
Xmas Eve 1993 and moved out of my life.not to go out for the sole purpose of trying to meet
This week, Sue, who lives in Los Angeles, California,a mate. When singles do that, they come off as
emailed: “I’m widowed, attractive and easylooking too hard—even desperate—and other
to get along with, and have a modicum of intelligencesingles sense that and will avoid them altogether.
to boot! Can you give me with some venues toWe hear about the importance of attitude so much
meet nice, respectful men in my age group? I'll be 62that it’s almost a hackneyed thought, but I
in a couple of weeks. I look really good. I workcannot stress enough how important it is for singles
full-time. I'm still raring to go. I'm just not sureto have a positive, non- judgmental attitude when
where to go. I don't do internet dating.”they are out and about.
I answered Sue—at the risk of discouragingNegative singles get passed over in the love search.
her—by writing that there is no place in the LosIn my book, I suggest reunions and weddings as
Angeles area or anywhere across the US -wheremust places to go. Joining clubs and doing volunteer
older single men congregate for the purpose ofwork are important activities, as are going back to
meeting quality women near their age. Places like thatschool and travel. And now we’ve added antique
simply don't exist.cars shows to the list.
Oh yes, there are clubs and bars where those olderJude, Dana Point, California, said, “I have no
guys go looking to meet young babes. But womenproblem meeting men. They are everywhere. You
like Sue wisely stay away, not wanting to competejust have to be friendly and approachable. Walking in
with younger women in a meat-market atmosphere.Dana Point Harbor is a great place to meet
Women get irked at me and suggest I’m notpeople.”
worth my weight as a columnist since I can’tBy not using the Internet, Sue has excluded herself
come up with specific places where single men hangfrom one of the most prolific ways older women
out. Last week, this column suggested women go tomeet older men. In spite of the negatives that
an antique car show because men like to talk aboutaccompany Internet dating, there are endless
their vintage cars and it’s easy to engage themsuccess stories for the “finding love after
in conversation. No women reported they went to50” group about how older singles met mates on
the show, or that they met somebody there, but atthe Internet. It should be at least a small part of
least we gave them a suggestion for a place whereSue’s mix of activities.
single men might be on a warm, Sunday afternoon.So where should Sue and single women in general go
My book, “Finding Love After 50: How to Begin.to meet men? Anywhere and everywhere, it’s
Where to Go. What to Do,” ( offers this advicethe getting out with new people that’s
to singles on where to go: “People need to getimportant. Fate will take over from there.